Helping the Helpers and Those Who Need Help

We all face situations where we need to help or to be helped. Or, especially during these uncertain times, we need both.

My meditation download today gave me a lot of calm during this coronavirus craze of uneasiness, uncertainty, fear and powerlessness.

And that’s OK. With EVERYTHING we are feeling right now, we are OK. Can I just take a moment to say, “Good job, virtual high-five, virtual pat on the back, virtual hugs”? You’re trying your best. And it’s OK.

Whether you’re a helper or need help, or both, my message to you is to be kind and compassionate to yourself and others. How? Here’s a video shoutout to you.

Take a breath and press play.

HELPERS

If you are in a mental, physical or spiritual place to help, reach out to someone and just be there. All the conversations, writings, meditation practices, yoga classes — now is the time for battle. Use your power, your life lessons from your unique experiences and challenges to help the best way you can.

Only you know how. I’m sharing my voice on Go Inspire Go to lift spirits and shift perspectives. I’m saying prayers to hold space for everyone who has asked or people I see/feel are hurting.

If you don’t know how to help, do nothing. It’s totally OK.

I remember when I was in a breakup, my friend Jen Schumacher said, “I’m coming to get you, we will drive to your fave restaurant and I’ll sing Mariah Carey songs to you the whole way to cheer you up.”

She was in a position to help. We talked about how, in a moment of fear and confusion, delusion takes over.

There is no right way to take action, if that is what you desire. Just. Do. It. Now.

BEING HELPED

Again, it’s OK to feel helpless. Let yourself feel it. You are human. If you don’t know what to do, don’t do anything right now.

You don’t have to blog.
You don’t have to call anyone.
You don’t have to be a badass.
You don’t have to be a spiritual teacher.
You don’t have to act like you’re not scared.
You don’t have to try to be brave.
You don’t have to ________.

Just. Be.

In times of crisis, I have told friends, family and the kiddos in my life the TRUTH. Be honest.

You can say, “I’m scared, too. It’s OK to be scared. I will sit here with you and be scared with you. I can sit here and get through this with you. I am here. I’ll be here when you need me. We will do this together.”

Energetically, people can sense when you’re hiding something. Pretending to know it all or acting like you’re not afraid signals to kids that fear is bad and to hide emotions during times of distress. NOPE.

Let yourself feel the feels. When you feel it, you can eventually heal it. But first, you have to deal with it. And if that means just being and not doing anything, GO FOR IT. If it means taking action, DO IT.

YOU DO YOU, BOO.

It’s also OK to ask for help. We all need help. But we need to be helpers when we can.

So honestly, I don’t know how this will all turn out. I am sometimes scared. I am sometimes happy. I am doing what I can to help others, sometimes. I am doing nothing, sometimes.

It’s OK and I love you. So many people love you. And we will get through this together!

xx
Toan

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